3.

Everything is an experiment.

This one is pretty simple.

I recently connected with a woman who has successfully set up a life for herself that looks a lot like the one I’m trying to build. (I like to connect with these people as much as I can and to pick their brains for as long as they’ll let me!) We spent about an hour chatting about how she made some massive and risky changes in her own life because she knew that she needed to be on a different path — one that was more in line with her talents and her passions, and one where the idea of “work/life balance” was no longer a struggle because her WHOLE life was working together in harmony. (If you’ve ever spent time talking to me you’ll probably know that this is one of my biggest life goals.)

We connected right away because she was very candid and very real, and she shared with me not only WHAT she did, but how and why she did it, and how she was thinking and feeling when she did it. One of the things she said that resonated the most with me came up when I asked her how she was able to work through her fears at the very beginning of the process, when she was totally overwhelmed and had no idea where to start:

“Basically, I realized that I just needed to try a lot of things to see what would work,” she said. “I had to go in with the approach that everything is an experiment, and if one thing didn’t go so well, I could just keep experimenting to see what else might work.”

On the other end of the phone, I quickly realized how liberating this approach was — suddenly, the idea that every decision and action is either a success or a failure is sort of blown apart. Instead, everything is an experiment. If something doesn’t work well? Cool! Now I have the experience and the information I need to alter my approach for next time. If something does work? Cool! Now I know that I need to be doing more of that, and working to figure out how I can make it even better next time.

With this approach in mind, doesn’t the future seem a little less scary and overwhelming? I think so.

 

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One thought on “3.

  1. Carl Weber says:

    What a great perspective. I can just picture all of us in our white lab coats, working away on trial after trial.

    “Attempt to talk to this distant relative #4596.34, Result: Failure to launch.”

    “Experimental coaching session with that new person #334, Result: Progress made.”

    “Observational Notes: More Coaching, Less Distant Relatives.”

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